Many seemingly happy relationships have come to a tragic end due to infidelity. If you suspect your partner of cheating, it can be difficult to drag the truth out of them by outright confronting them. Cheaters tend to be pathological liars who create cover stories on a regular basis to cover their after-hour activities.
Sometimes you may have to resort to sneakier tactics to catch a cheater in the act. Thankfully in 2018 and beyond we have the technology that makes it easier than ever to beat a cheater at their own game.
Techniques to catch a cheater
Cheaters are always on edge because they’re constantly covering their tracks. This gives you the advantage because sooner or later they’re going to get comfortable and make a slip-up…you just have to be patient.
Communication methods such as social media and text messaging are often used to contact secret lovers. That means if you know exactly where to dig you’ll likely find a treasure trove of damning evidence.
Let’s take a look at a few creative ways you can catch a cheater in the act.
The Cell Phone Bill
Often times the only bit of information we’re interested in seeing when we get our phone bill in the mail is the amount we have to pay every month. However, cheaters tend to rely upon their cell phones heavily when gallivanting about with a secret lover.
Cheaters think they’re slick when they delete their text messages, but they may not be aware that their texting transcripts are archived in their cell phone provider’s database. You can use the information found on your cell phone bill to easily access ingoing and outgoing text messages along with other suspicious activity.
Here are a few patterns to keep your eye out for:
- Calls and text messages to the same number
- Communication during hours where a phone is supposedly “lost” or “dead.”
- Calls and texts sent and received after business hours
Rifle through the information and write down any suspicious numbers (such as numbers with unfamiliar area codes). Now go to idtrue.com and enter each number in a reverse phone lookup.
The problem with cheaters is they think they’re smart. They try little tricks such as saving a secret lovers name as something inconspicuous (such as “Dr. Nelson”). IDTrue can quickly uncover this deception by matching a name and possibly even a face to the number letting you know instantly who your partner is talking to in the dead of night.
Online background checks
Finding a name and possibly a photo may be all the evidence you need to confirm your suspicions and confront the cheater. However, you can take your investigative work one step further by running a background check on Idtrue.
The process is simple. You just need the first and last name of the mystery person and the state they live in (which should be revealed during the reverse phone lookup). The online background check should reveal a wealth of information that includes:
- Criminal record
- Contact details
- Address history
- Social media profiles
The information listed above is just some of what will be revealed during an online background check. Prepare to possibly learn some hard truths. There have been instances where background checks have revealed secret marriages. That would mean you would be the person your partner is sneaking around behind their spouse’s back! Crazier things have certainly happened.
Using your phone to catch a cheater
A cheater’s greatest weakness has always been and will likely always be their cell phone. Learn to use this tool against them to confirm whether or not your suspicions of infidelity are true. Let’s look at a few tricks that can help you in this endeavor.
Find My iPhone
If you’re an apple user, Find My iPhone is a nifty little feature that allows you to use your computer and mobile devices to pinpoint the exact location of your iPhone. This is often used when you lose your phone, but it can be repurposed to pinpoint the exact location of a suspected cheater (if you share a phone plan). Red flags should fly if your significant other says they’re going down to the pub for a few drinks, but ends ups at a seedy motel the next town over.
FaceTime is an app that allows you to speak with someone face to face. No, you can’t take over your partner’s phone anytime you wish to see what they’re doing, but you can request to FaceTime when they’re away for an extended period of time. This is a great way to ensure your partner is alone and not entertaining the wrong type of company. If your partner refuses a FaceTime request (let’s say in the dead of night) this may be cause for you to be on guard.
Uncovering the truth
When you enter a relationship, you leave yourself open emotionally. If your partner decides to break your trust by cheating on you, you have every right to investigate to find the truth of the matter. Tactics such as running a reverse phone lookup and background check using IDtrueshould reveal all the information you need to either confirm or dispel your suspicions. You can decide on what action to take after that.